http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ Share your affair experience en-US Fri, 10 Sep 2010 05:04:48 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.1 q http://www.doccool.com/discussion/search.php http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=900#post-11602 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:05:34 +0000 tangypassion 11602@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>He's 39 and i'm 23...both currently going through slow divorces..he has 5 kids..i have 1..and we work together. Geez, doesn't sound like good odds does it. But today was our 6 month "anniversary!" The kisses today are still as sizzling as that first one back in March! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=900#post-11601 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:35:58 +0000 GGSB 11601@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>OM is 12 years older than me - but has the body of someone who is 20 years younger. We are both married with children. Didn't set out for this to happen - it just did - and after becoming a parent, this has been the best experience of my life! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=900#post-11600 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:32:12 +0000 noguarantees 11600@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>He is 20 years older than me, he's married, I'm 'single,' and we've been together 10 months. Was not looking to be the 'OW' or to date someone that much older, it just happened that way... </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=899#post-11599 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:31:23 +0000 GGSB 11599@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Haven't experienced the quickie yet. I can say that even when we do meet for a "quick kiss" that lasts about an hour - lol. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=898#post-11598 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:30:31 +0000 justkate 11598@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>I talked a bit to her today. Like i said she is new, she works for me, and i cant avoid it. It's not like i can pretend it didnt happen. I said, would you believe me if i told you it was all a figment of your imagination? She laughed. I am playing it cool. Going to take her at her word that she wont tell anyone. Im hoping that because she is new she will be inclined to keep it to herself. I have to trust that she is a good person, and if i carry on like i always do, being fair, treating her well, then she wont have any need to spread this around. If she respects me, because ive earned that respect, then she will keep our private lives to herself out of respect.</p> <p> I hope. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=889#post-11597 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 00:02:12 +0000 bigheart_girl 11597@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Btw- Wassup. I am also 30..well just turned 31 actually (but people think I'm 22... haha) </p> <p>If you are only in your marriage 2 years and no kids or intertwined finances, and you've had an affair(s) yes, you should probably just get out. Regardless of whether this works out with your mafia girl or not, you clearly are not happy. There's a lot of people in the world that you could find, but why not just stay single and date for a while. You CLEARLY do not want to jump out of a marriage straight into another shotgun wedding with the mafia girl (sorry, I'm having too much fun with the visuals)</p> <p>Yes, living alone is scary. You know you are ready to leave your marriage when you are willing to face any of the consequences. You can get out fairly easy without kids, but a divorce isn't cheap. Honestly... your life is always going to kinda feel like a sham as long as you are married and having an affair. You want the comfort, but don't want just one person. We all have this fear. However, it is weakness of character and will. If our partners knew about our affair, we'd be thrown tot he curb so quickly. Imagine how you'd feel if you found out your wife was having an affair, and would you want to continue?</p> <p>For me it's very complicated. We share a business, finances, have some debt in our name including a lawsuit against our business (bullshit) We also have an intertwined family and a son. So, my split would be very very painful and complicated in a lot of ways. We've both discussed how it's just easy to stay married because a split his too painful, complicated and expensive to think about. </p> <p>If you can get out of your marriage fairly drama-free (considering no divorce is drama free) I would do it before you have any more complications. Once you actually have the divorce discussion with your wife you will know whether you are ready. I've had this discussion. It's an arguement, crying, hurt and then you see whether you feel relieved or want to make up. Often times the pain makes it so you make up just not to feel shitty anymore. The pain of a split is unbearable... talking about it is awful. Imagine someone sticking their hand into your chest, grabbing your heart and twisting it and squeezing it. It's practically physical pain. Yes, I do have love for my hubby but we both bring out the worst in each other. We are in so deep that we can't see any light at the end of the tunnel either way. I told him that no matter what... whether we stay together or split he will end up hating me... it's just going that route. </p> <p>Decide now while it's easier because it just gets more and more complicated over time.</p> <p>P.S. I've been married for 10 years but with my hubby for 16. I was happy for the first 5 years, so if you are in year 2 and not happy, get the fuck out! :P </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=901#post-11596 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 23:45:27 +0000 bigheart_girl 11596@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>So... I haven't had any interaction with my x or seen or spoke to him. It's been a long time. I figured, hey, I might try to just do something nice to try to break the tension and make things less weird/awkward. I came across something for him and decided to give it to him. He said that he couldn't accept it. He didn't want anything from me. I ended up sitting down and talking with him for a while and he actually had tears in his eyes and told me that he didn't want to go into the reasons why, but he can't see me. He explained how he hates his life, job, he never really even sees his girlfriend and he's trying to get out of this town. He said it wasn't personal. However, he was not interested in ever meeting up with me or anyone else for that matter to meet and talk because he has nothing to say. He then went on to explain how he has no friends and most people give up on him. I told him that he's actually the one that gives up on people. I did end up telling him that for what it's worth, I'm sorry for the way things ended up with us. We were very close at one point, but that's all faded away. For that, I'm sorry and I do miss him and wish him well. I said that the door is open if you want to be friends again. He shook his head. He told me that he cannot be a friend to me because of personal reasons. He told me that he was going to leave the gift and it would end up in lost and found. I told him that would be a jerk thing to do, and he isn't a jerk. The next day he dropped me an email saying that the gift was going to end up in a place that is yet to be determined. He cannot accept a gift because I'm too kind to him over the past and he notes it, but I should save it for someone who reciprocates. I said, yes, I agree. However, I do nice things for other people all the time. I told him to go ahead and throw it away.</p> <p>It goes to show that no matter how much time passes and I give just a little bit of kindness to him, it changes nothing and he will, by however means he can try to turn it into negative energy. Our conversation was a bit long and his bipolar tendencies seemed to be apparent and he's clearly depressed. His projection of his emotions is far more than I can handle or care to. What I do realize is that he is a handful for whomever is in his life. He really is a mess and it's no wonder that he isolates himself from everyone. He once said that people are better off without him, and he is most definitely correct. He does no good for anyone and always looks out only for himself. He has no desire to improve either. I think that my pity party for him is over. I was just trying to break the ice and make things more comfortable when I ran into him, but he clearly doesn't want that because, judging by his reaction to certain questions, he clearly loved me and is upset that he's waited for a year doing a job he doesn't like in a town he doesn't want to be in for this pipe dream that will never come true. His behavior does make me realize that someone as selfish as he is should be alone. A lone writer in a log cabin in the woods... I could see him doing that. Maybe he'd even write in his own blood after cutting himself out of self-loathing. He is a sad excuse for a human being indeed but this time he doesn't bring me down with him. Misery loves company and I no longer can bring out the best in him so I have given up. His girlfriend's friends have spoke with me about how she has become more like him, depressed, a loner and now she has also deleted her facebook and become a recluse from the world. The two of them together will be hollow shells of existence to humanity. Some people were destined for greatness and some people were destined to defeat themselves. I mistakenly allowed myself to somewhat morph into the defeatist mentality last year when I was trying to empathize with his situation and I ended up defeating myself and I've wasted too much of my life focused on someone who is hopeless while putting myself on the wayside. There has only been one kind thing that he's done for me over the past year, and indeed it was a great gesture that required a lot of courage (a love/forgiveness mix of songs) However, it clearly was for selfish purposes to attempt to see if a relationship was possible. He put out feelers and he dropped a few hints over the summer but I disregarded them and brushed them off because I don't want him waiting because I don't know what's happening. Besides, he gave me nothing to wait for. I had distanced myself and forgotten him. I probably should've listened to my instincts and not given him a gift because it just opened the door for him to be mean to me. If only I could play a video of a conversation with him to all of you, you'd see how odd the things he says are, and they aren't logical sometimes. He cannot express his emotions in words (this is a symptom of bipolar.) He rambles on about stuff to me like what he's doing that weekend, etc, in between talking about anything serious. He cannot handle discussing anything even remotely emotional. For being a "sensitive" individual, he is very cruel... I've noticed that just because someone is sensitive does not mean that they encompass empathy. They are not sister traits. I have to admit that I feel sad for his soul, but I do honestly hope he finds his way. I know that anger is easier to deal with, but I will not change my good qualities into negativity for anyone. Instead I feel sorry for him and all that he's losing in life because of his own misery. I feel sad for him that he can only see what he's lost instead of what he gained. His life will pass him by like a dark rain cloud and he will die with a lot of regrets if he ever does become wise... but maybe he won't. I will no longer be the sunshine on his rainy day self-loathing parade. I am distanced from this emotionally now so my reaction to him is 10% of what it used to be when he could devastate me. I decided a while ago that noone can make me miserable but myself and if someone causes me pain, they better cause me a whole lot of pleasure. At least in my marriage, there is pain, but there's pleasure. There's no pleasure with my x. There is only negativity. My kindness was only showing goodwill and now I see that it is hopeless. I am a bigger person then he is and he wants to maintain anger towards me. So be it. I used to think that I like a challenge, but I've changed my mind. BIG TIME. </p> <p>Anyway... I just wanted to vent a little. I'm annoyed more than anything. I am not upset or hurt because I knew where we stood. Feel free to give me your input if you have any. And boys, please save your bashing because I am not still hung up on him, but I do not like ending things with a bad taste in my mouth. I was trying for peace but only got more drama. Yeah, I know that I should know better but it's my karmic mentality that if you give you will receive. Haha... doesn't work all the time. That's OK though. We all get what we deserve eventually, I suppose (and that thought actually kinda scares me because of what I did with my affair) All the good karma I've done over my life has seemed to be trumped by this one awful, selfish act with one very selfish individual. I had completely lost my mind last year just like the nut job I had an affair with. That 25 year old boy has a lot of growing up to do, but I realize, so do I. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=900#post-11595 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 23:26:55 +0000 Cheri 11595@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>I was wondering what is the age difference between you and your AP... </p> <p>Are you staying in your age group, younger or older?</p> <p>My x-guy was 10 years younger.. Me 47 him 37 ...... He was too much in his own world at that age.. </p> <p>Are they married or single?? Mine was single.</p> <p>I guess I had 2 strikes against me.. oh make that 3.. we work together LOL</p> <p>Still trying to find that special someone but havent found him yet.. maybe I have to stop looking and he will find me.</p> <p>Maybe need to decide what I really want</p> <p>Chat soon everyone </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=896#post-11594 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:19:18 +0000 amicrazy 11594@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>purplelily - I'm sure you are right about him. This isn't something I went looking for, nor something I would ever seek out. My marriage isn't all bad, but needs work. I have flirted before, but never anything further. Just enough to get my confidence up a bit, I guess.</p> <p>I am working to get my emotions in check. He will be leaving the area again early next week and I probably won't see him again for about 4-5 months. So, if nothing does happen between us before he leaves, I guess we will have a 'cooling down' period and see if the passion is still there when he returns. I like having the wonderful phone and IM conversations, sometimes erotic, sometimes just like old friends...I am hoping we will keep those up if nothing else. </p> <p>Anything after this trip will depend on what happens when he visits his GF on his next trip to the states. She is military and will be leaving for the middle east early next year, so he is going to visit her on his next trip in (1000's of miles away from here). He says he will be sad not to be able to talk to me near as much when he is with her, but would occassionally let me know he's still alive...lol..That will be the hardest part of all...</p> <p>I'll check back in occassionally if anything new develops! I love reading the stories and thoughts of people like me! CRAZY! :) It's nice to know I'm not alone! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=895#post-11593 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:03:31 +0000 isabelle 11593@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Had to stop suddenly. He has tried to stop this 3 times, because of guilt, and going nowhere with relationship (both married) but has come back after about 2 or 3 days. Because of this (last time just after xmas) I have thoughts will he do it again and when I don't hear from him, I think the worst. All good at the moment. I would hate life without him in it. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=895#post-11592 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:58:40 +0000 isabelle 11592@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Jay.lo It has been going on for 20 months now. It is easier sometimes to concentrate. The hard times are when I haven't heard from him when expected to or when he distances himself becomes moody etc. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=855#post-11591 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:47:00 +0000 purplelily 11591@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>jay.lo, it is possible to have it all and not want to be with that person forever, I agree. in fact, if you can so that, it will save you from some of the angst about building towards nothing and living for today, 5 years later. </p> <p>anyhow, keep having fun and introducing new things to the situation. guys hate boredom in the bedroom so feed his appetite. so to speak. ;) </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=899#post-11590 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:44:00 +0000 purplelily 11590@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Hi jay.lo - I've had many quickies with my guy because of our situation, time constraints, location, etc. They are totally hot, and it is amazing what you can do in a confined space, sleeping blanket, up against a wall, hmm. I am getting excited just talking about it. </p> <p>We both felt bad about the quick separation as well since we don't get to see each other much either, so we started adding some time on to them - like lunch, hanging out by the water, etc. Once we met for breakfast first, then went and had our quickie, we hadn't really planned on hooking up that time but things were heating up as we ate! It is actually kind of fun to have the quickie then have lunch. The excitement lingers. We'll talk about what we just did and that is always fun. Or he'll ask me questions about how I'm feeling, that I'm glowing, whatever. ;-) </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11589 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 12:14:23 +0000 jay.lo 11589@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Interesting questions Purplelily, I would answer YES to all except the one of the OM being or soulmate. I think it's the situation that makes it so HOT. If we shared the everyday life with our OM...mmmmmmmm...I am not so sure it would be so hot.<br /> What do you all think? </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=899#post-11588 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:56:35 +0000 jay.lo 11588@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>I have just had a "quickie" with my OM and I can only say...OMG, I want more!!! It has been incredible!!! I am still shaking...<br /> The interesting thing is that it was so quick that I didn't have time to come, he came before me and he felt bad afterwards. But I don't really care, I had such a great time and I want to do it again soon.<br /> However, it's my 2nd quickie with him and both times I felt a bit sad when it was over because it meant we had to go and we had only been together a few minutes after a week of not seeing each other. So I leave with an empty feeling of wanting more time with him, but not much more, just a few more minutes. Does it make any sense? Anybody goes through something similar? Is it a gender issue?<br /> Anyway, I know that's why they are called "quickies" plus both times we have chosen public locations so cannot really stay long together if we don't want to be suspicious. I just wanted to share my view and feelings.<br /> What are your views, feelings and experiences? I would love to hear from anybody else! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=855#post-11587 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:40:36 +0000 jay.lo 11587@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Hi, yes this post is quite interesting.<br /> I agree with "beautifulgirl". I love my husband and don't plan on leaving him and my OM fills a great void and I care for him, I think I even have feelings of love/friendship after 8 months into the Affair. I am even brave enough to say that I feel in love with my OM. So what?<br /> Do I wonder sometimes how would our relationship be if we were dating? Yes! Why wouldn't I? As long as I don't lose the perspective of our situation I think I am safe. I day dream a little bit and then go back to reality and realize most longterm relationships end up in routine and with something missing so why would it be different with my OM?<br /> Anyway, I still think you can have a happy Affair and have feelings for the other person and yet no desire to end up with them.<br /> And I agree with all of you, the best thing of the Affair is the SEX!!! OMG!!! IT'S INCREDIBLE!!! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11586 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:34:57 +0000 purplelily 11586@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>So it is interesting to think about - what makes it so hot?? The fact it is forbidden? Because you can openly share fantasies and not be afraid of rejection? Because you don't have to also do the guy's laundry and cook his meals, so we get the best and none of the day-to-day drudgery? Is this guy truly our soul mate (at least sexually if not more) or would it be this good with any random hot man? Wonder what you all think! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11585 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:26:08 +0000 jay.lo 11585@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>I just had a quickie with my OM and can only say... OMG!!! I am still shaking...and I WANT MORE!!!<br /> Too bad gotta wait till next time :-( </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=855#post-11584 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:33:54 +0000 beautifulgirl 11584@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>This is an interesting post and I feel the need to jump in here. I also have no dreams of being with my OM in the long run. He is not the marrying kind and there is no question that he would hurt me if we ever tried to be exclusive. Based on the fact I am seeing him at all, I would probably do the same to him eventually too. We discussed that very clearly in the begining. </p> <p>However he is a beautiful distraction in my life. The sex is incredible, our secret is exciting and getting to know him is an interesting challenge for me. That said, Of course I care what he thinks of me and often struggle to balance the sexual and emotional aspects of the situation. After sharing such passion and intimacy with someone for a period of time it is hard not to get attached, whether it is realistic or not. Just because you won't be together forever doesn't mean you can't have an emotional connection for a period of time. Doesn't every woman want to feel desired and special? </p> <p>That said, in my case I simply don't think I could justify the risk that I am taking if my OM didn't mean something to me. I don't deceive myself that this could be forever. I know that my time with my OM is limited and will be very sad when it ends so I want to get the most out of the time that I have with him. The day will come when we will be forced to end things. One day I will move to another country, or he will. Or I will have children which would be a motivating factor for me to finally end things. So i want to enjoy as much of him as I can while I can. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11583 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 08:31:18 +0000 maybe 11583@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Ladies please! You could start a stampede and might be held responsible for a breakdown of morality within mariage when the word gets out, lol!! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=755#post-11582 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 07:43:11 +0000 beautifulgirl 11582@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>So I had an interesting exchange with my OM recently... After not seeing my OM when my husband was out of town I realized just how much he can affect my emotions. As the married one, I always feel more guilty when I try to plan something or look forward to seeing him and sometimes feel silly when it doesn’t happen. Easier to justify my actions when he drives things and I feel secure I guess. Most of our early meetings were initiated by him but since he walked away, it feels like most of our meetings have been initiated by me. Although, he has tried a couple of times and the timing has just not worked out. And by initiate, since he came back it seems all I have had to do is send him a message that says hi when I want to see him and I usually do, even if it sometimes means he has to change his plans. I have been careful to limit how often I reach out to him.</p> <p>Anyhow, guilt made me start questioning whether we should be doing this again. The times we are together are amazing but I'm not sure what changed his mind to come back and am unclear about where things stand. I have tried to ask him a couple of times but often end up approaching it in a roundabout way that doesn't get me anywhere maybe because I am afraid to know what he is really feeling. He is a man of few words and he usually just says irritating logical things like "I wouldn't be here if I didn't want to be here". We probably won’t see each other for a while so to get it off my mind I sent a brief message that said I was feeling guilty. I don't want to give him up, I care about him but I am probably always going to struggle with this and I need him to understand that when I break down every once in a while. He came back with a short simple message that said I am not giving you up either...:) See you soon:)</p> <p>Cute, vague and non-committal… but such a long way from where we were six months ago that I can’t wait to see him again anyway, whenever that may be. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11581 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 05:44:23 +0000 doubletrouble 11581@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Totally agree....it's the best of my whole life. We are going on 2 years and sometimes go 4 - 6 months without seeing each other. If we see each other every day or not for 4 months - the sex is still hotter than ever. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=898#post-11580 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 05:16:02 +0000 addicted 11580@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>omg... I almost had that happened, but it was all in my head. My whole department of over 200 people were in the hotel, I stayed in his room, I opened the door (i was alone in the room) and saw my coworker just walked by. She wouldn't know that it was his room, but I was so guilty, that my instinct reaction was to slam the door shut right away as if I were doing something naughty. She didn't say anything, but probably was thinking what the F? I didn't say a word about it to her afterwards...awkward!! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=891#post-11579 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:19:01 +0000 purplelily 11579@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>oh, that's ugly if he likes that your "single". well play along with it, then. do you think he suspects at all - I mean most single people have their lovers over to their house at some point, I would think! also, there are so many search tools on the internet - give me about 15 minutes and you wouldn't believe what I can find on the internet about someone. If he's looked at all, he's probably seen hubby's name, age, whatever. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=898#post-11578 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:17:42 +0000 purplelily 11578@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>ugh, that is messy. my advice is don't talk to her, just let it go and deal with the fall out, if there is any. since she is new, she is probably afraid to say anything anyhow. Talking to her could somehow be construed later like you were holding something over hear not to talk - like if she's trying to get a promotion and doesn't, or who knows what could pop up - the workplace affair is always fraught with danger. This is a good reminder to all of us to always be on guard and be careful, no matter the passion, intensity, etc. Make smart decisions and be patient for the right times to be together. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11577 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:13:15 +0000 purplelily 11577@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>I agree with all of the ladies - it just gets better and better with time! We're each others fantasy come true. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=895#post-11576 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:28:22 +0000 GGSB 11576@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>OM and I are in almost constant communication because we text every couple of hours. I have to say that most of my concentration is on my iphone. I still do the things I have to do, but with my iphone right my by side. I am a per-diem worker and sometimes I turn jobs down because there is the possibility I may be able to meet OM. We have been together for two years - and act as if we just met. We always have great fun together. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=886#post-11575 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 01:07:12 +0000 Crazyinlove 11575@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Well I met my MM today for coffee and I immediately noticed that dang ring. For some reason it was like a Flashing Billboard sign today :( I really dislike that reminder of reality and how he's NOT all mine. Should I talk with him about how I feel? Would it be bad of me if I request he take it off when we go out on our "dates". Or should I just keep quiet? </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=891#post-11574 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:48:35 +0000 ellebelle 11574@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>you are correct, lily. i know it's gotten way out of hand, and it's no longer a little white lie! I've had the same thoughts, but also i risk outing myself as a very dishonest person. In the beginning it was kind of a game to me, playing the role of the single girl I used to be, and secretly wanted to be again. (midlilfe crisis anyone?) </p> <p>I had no idea it would get this far, but I kind of think he liked the idea of me not having anyone at home. He's offered on several occasions to help me out around the house! Maybe it makes him feel needed? But, yes, I've gone back and forth with this in my own mind, and I just don't know how to tell him now! "By the way..." "Hey, guess what..." Just never seems like the right time! Or maybe he suspects or even knows (tan line :), but is just keeping it to himself. If I had some kind of gurantee that he wouldn't be pissed off at me, I'd likely come clean. </p> <p>oh what a tangled web, huh... </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11573 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:35:52 +0000 tangypassion 11573@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Omg ours just keeps getting better and better! It'll be 6 months tomorrow! Best 6 months of my life! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11572 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:19:12 +0000 Juliet 11572@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Yes. It stays this hot. Why do you think these things are so addictive?? </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11571 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:15:12 +0000 justkate 11571@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Oh, it gets better. Weve been a year and the one thing i can count on is unbelievable sex. Ive never experienced this kind of passion for so long. Ive had a great sex life, even with my ex, but that was nothing compared to this.<br /> Ive felt passion before, only to discover the sex was terrible, or the sex was great, but never felt the passion. Now i have it all wrapped up in one guy. How do you give that up? </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=898#post-11570 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:09:16 +0000 justkate 11570@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>So ah, i have a situation.</p> <p> This last week we exchanged a few emails along the lines of what the hell are we doing, and i thought we should maybe not see each other any more. That all went out the window as soon as i saw him. As it usually does. He doesnt want to stop. Neither do i, but its just so hard sometimes, and emotionally, i am not in a good place because of it. </p> <p> Anyway. We were saying goodbye today in our usual manner and a staff member walked in on us. I quickly ducked out of the room, he said something and came after me. We are, as you all can imagine, a little freaked out. Its actually amazing this hasnt happened before. We have been together for a year, and have, in the past, done some crazy things. Weve been oh so careful, but having not seen each other for almost a week we got a little carried away. An almost breakup will do that, i guess. Haha.</p> <p> I dont know what to do! Should i talk to this person? Should i just forget it happened? Ive talked to him a bit tonight, he thinks i should say something. Hes going to get back to me on what, but its not like we can pretend it didnt happen. I heard her say not to worry she wouldnt say anything, but she is young. She is also new, and doesnt really know anyone. Everyone we work with already suspects, but no one can prove anything. This is just all kinds of bad.</p> <p>UGH! </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=897#post-11569 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 21:54:32 +0000 Giselle 11569@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>I have to ask you that have been in your affair longer if the sex is ever less than stellar or if it gets better? I am on a high right now after being with my OM today and I have to say that he totally rocks my world sexually!!! I'm only 3 months in and was wondering if things change as you are together longer. </p> http://www.doccool.com/discussion/topic.php?id=886#post-11568 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 21:50:44 +0000 Giselle 11568@http://www.doccool.com/discussion/ <p>Sometimes I wear mine when I'm with my OM and sometimes I don't. He wears his all the time but it doesn't bother me. Just like GGSB I will wear mine or not wear mine depending on if I remembered to put it in my gym bag, matches my jewelry, etc. So, if I didn't wear mine it wouldn't mean anything to my husband. My husband doesn't wear one so no biggie. </p>