I met my affair at work , we hit off straight away - then after texting everyone cause I got a new number - we just started texting and things went from there , that was 13 months ago. The relationship was purely sexual in nature although as we are both married we never crossed the line. A few weeks ago he text me drunk wanting me to come to him late at night to cross the line - it wasnt that simple and so never happened. Anyway we were last intimate last Thursday and ever since then he had not text me / talk to me at all which was odd - I tried to talk to him / ask him what was up but he just never replied. Finally today I texted him to say that I needed to know so I could leave him alone , and ask why he won't talk to me (although he is still being friendly) and had it to do with the fact that I am preggers with husbands child ... he just replied not convienent ... i just feel happier that I know why but empty and hurt that it has ended :-(
Help its over
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Posted 7 months ago #
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Hi Dollar. Welcome. The fact that he responded "not convenient" is a clear sign that he was in the relationship purely for sexual reasons. That response is cold.
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Welcome to our group! You don't say in your posting when you told him you were pregnant. I read your afair had been going on for the past 13 months is there any chance this is his baby? I'm sure he is scared it might be. Men and women have affairs to have fun, adventure, add some excitement to their lives, not to procreate. That information would have ended most affairs that are purely sexual. It ends for some even when two people have fallen in love.
I am curious were you trying to get pregnant or was this an accident? If you were trying, I really think you should have told him during the affair. A baby would scare most men running for the hills.
At least you do have this new little one to concentrate on for the next several months. I'm sorry for your aching heart many of us here have broken hearts or just very difficult lives trying to keep the marriage and the affair going. This is the only place many of us can go to share our secret lives and ask for advice, so you have found a place you will never be judged.Posted 7 months ago # -
Thank you for your replies, I know this was a sexual relationship but I did have feelings for him after that period of time - i would not say i love him because i know that its all just a little perk for him it was more infactuation but it still hurts to feel rejected and that he didtn have the respect to end things properly. It was a cold response but i needed an answer and at least I have clarity now, I guess this is why he never responded previously.
In answer to the question about pregnancy - he has known since November and there is no chance that it is his child. Firstly because we never had intercourse and secondly he is unable to ooncieve due to having the snip.
Here is hope that I can contain myself at work and just keep my head down - try not to get me down .... and maybe we can be friendly after time ... at least he never lied to me he always said it was sexual and i should have seen it coming eventually !!! xxPosted 7 months ago # -
More confused now .... as he text me this morning ( I bought a new toy a while ago !!) saying so how's toy ? Wonder if I misunderstood his text yesterday meaning its not conveienent for him to be texting me lately I dunno .. anyway saw him at work and we chatted for a bit about the weekend - he said nothing about the messages .... why are men so confusing at times !! I wonder if he is still interested but with the pregnancy maybe its put him off a bit ... who knows... but thank you all its so nice to have someone to talk to about all this after 13 months to get it all down really helps :-)
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