Long 1st post!!!
Been a long time lurker who has taken many good things away from this board but never had anything of real value to contribute back...
Ever dated a girl that was WAY out of your league and you couldn't understand what she saw in you but you didn’t care. This is one of those.
Not too sure where to start... SO I'll start from the beginning I guess.
Dated this girl for a few yrs it was by far the best thing, we were a great match on almost every level. I moved away to college and she made the 90min weekend trip out every weekend. We made it work for as long as possible. Eventually things started going sideways. She had to move for work and I couldn’t follow. So it ended @ that point.
FF 8yrs!!! Through MSN we meet up again.... This time we're both married and in different states. late night calls & some risqué videos & pictures things are going good. This goes on for a few months things are getting progressively serious even the "I still love you" comes out from her 1st!. She has made the point of leaving her husband and moving across state (closer to me) but not because of me. Turns out that these issues were a long time coming for her.
FF 6mtns!! We've kept in touch over the past year but not as much as prior to her leaving her husband. Things have more or less died down from where they were once, but the spark is still there just buried for now. I have recently changed jobs and due to work I am being sent to her state for a client visit. I told her that I will finally be able to visit and she's happy about that and wants me to come visit her (only 15mins from where I am staying)... I am finished client work on Thursday but I have booked the weekend for an extended visit. Her boyfriend works weekends...
FF Present!! Now my dilemma is when I see her in a few weeks how do I approach this? I want to gauge things first when we meet and make sure we're both on the same page. I know I could probably ask her but that just seems so well blah!!! On the other hand I don't want to be in a situtation where I don't do anything and then find out from her the old "I was waiting for you to do something". I have made some suggestions and of getting together (she's suppose to show me the good strip clubs in area and come with me, since she says how good they are)
I know she likes the aggressive type guys not the laid back wear your heart on your shirt kind of guys..
Hmmm. what to do